Therapist in Hitchin and Baldock
Grief & loss therapy
Grief work has become a deeply significant part of my practice. I didn’t intentionally set out on this path, but through the clients who have trusted me with their stories and the experiences that have shaped me as a therapist, grief has become a central and meaningful part of the work I do.
Supporting people through loss has shown me that grief isn’t something we “fix.” While all therapy resists the idea of “fixing,” grief work is especially not about changing how you feel, it’s about honouring what mattered and learning to live with grief as a part of you, rather than something to overcome.
Grief can feel unpredictable, overwhelming and is always deeply personal. It can touch identity, memory, safety and make you question the meaning of life. You may look the same on the outside, while inside everything feels altered.
My role as a therapist is to offer steady presence, sensitive listening and gentle tools to help you navigate emotions that can feel too heavy to hold alone. Whether your loss is recent or years in the past, expected or sudden, visible or private, there is no timeline in grief and there should be no expectation to “move on.” Just space to feel, remember, breathe and slowly rebuild at your own pace.
Remember: Grief is not a problem to solve. It is a profound human experience shaped by love, connection and memory. Together, we create space to honour what mattered while slowly learning how to live again, without forcing you to let go.
My experience & what drew me to this work
During my clinical placement, I worked in a hospice environment, a place I initially resisted, held back by my own discomfort and personal fears. With encouragement from my tutor, I chose to step toward it anyway and I will always be grateful for that guidance.
Because what I had built to be only a space of endings became one of presence, tenderness, honesty and profound human connection. I supported families grieving and witnessed love expressed in raw, simple moments. I sat with people finding meaning at end of life and with those learning to live in the shadow of loss.
That experience shaped and continues to shape the heart of my work.
It showed me that grief is another expression of love and confirmed for me that the most meaningful support is gentle, consistent and grounded in care rather than urgency or expectation.
Therapist in Hitchin and Baldock
How I support you
Grief does not move in neat stages, although frameworks like Elisabeth Kübler-Ross can help name emotions, real grief is non-linear. It circles, softens, surges, quietens and sometimes surprises us years later.
My support meets you wherever you are:
- Gentle exploration and expression of emotions
- Understanding nervous-system responses to grief
- Making space for numbness, anger, guilt, longing, confusion and love
- Honouring memories and continuing bonds
- Identity exploration, “Who am I now?”
- Meaning-making at your own pace
- Grounding and coping tools for overwhelm
- Support with sleep, anxiety and emotional regulation when grief affects daily life
Grief work isn’t about erasing what’s lost or moving past it. It’s about remembering, honouring and finding ways to live with love and memory intact. This is a space where you can talk, cry, sit in silence, breathe, laugh unexpectedly or not know how you feel at all.
All versions of you are welcome.
Who may benefit
You may be seeking support if you’re experiencing:
- Bereavement (recent or historic)
- Anticipatory grief (for yourself or a loved one)
- Feeling disconnected since the loss
- A world that looks familiar but feels entirely changed
- Anxiety, numbness, overwhelm, intrusive thoughts or existential questions
- Internal or external pressure to “be okay”
- A need to talk, remember, understand or simply rest
When do people know they’re ready for support in grief?
Some reach out early on, while others do so months or even years later. There is no wrong moment, only the one that feels true for you.
For many, it’s after the first wave settles, often around three months, when the world assumes you should be “functioning” again. That assumption is simply wrong. Grief doesn’t work to a timeline.
My therapeutic approach
- Warm, steady, and unhurried
- No pressure to “move on” or find silver linings
- Emotion-focused and nervous-system aware
- Trauma-informed
- Grounded in continuing bonds, identity and meaning
- Gentle rebuilding at your pace
Optional 6-week grief program
You may also choose to access my 6-week grief program as part of therapy or between sessions.
It offers a soft structure to:
- Explore emotions safely
- Honour memories and identity shifts
- Build grounding and nervous-system tools
- Create space for continued bonds
- Move gently through grief without rushing healing
A steady container when you want both emotional space and guidance.
When you’re ready
If you’re feeling lost in your grief, unsure how to navigate life now or simply longing for a quiet place to lay things down for a while, I am here.
You don’t have to hold this alone.