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Anxiety-Focused Therapy

Anxiety can affect the way you think, feel, behave and experience everyday life. It can show up as persistent worry, overthinking, panic or a constant feeling that something might go wrong.

Sometimes you might know exactly what you’re anxious about, but other times you might feel on edge without being able to explain why. This can be particularly unsettling and leave you with feelings of confusion, helplessness and a loss of control.

You may know that you’re overthinking. You may even know that the thing you’re worrying about is unlikely to happen. But knowing that doesn’t necessarily make your brain stop.

When anxiety becomes part of everyday life

Anxiety isn’t always obvious. It can become so familiar that you barely notice how much time and energy you’re spending trying to manage it.

It might be the constant analysing, planning, checking, worrying and second-guessing that follows you through everyday life. You might find yourself avoiding things, seeking reassurance, trying to stay in control or constantly preparing for what might happen next.

Sometimes anxiety doesn’t even feel like worry. It might show up as irritability, perfectionism, avoidance, panic, physical symptoms or an overwhelming need to stay in control.

You might have become very good at masking your anxiety. You keep busy, stay organised and avoid anything that might make you uncomfortable. These things can help you get through the day and convince yourself that you’re fine, but they don’t address what’s really going on underneath.

You may recognise some of these experiences…

  • Your mind is constantly thinking about what could go wrong.
  • You replay conversations and worry about what you said or how you came across.
  • You struggle to switch off, even when there is nothing particularly wrong.
  • You need reassurance but find that it only helps temporarily.
  • You avoid things because you are worried about what might happen.
  • You find uncertainty incredibly difficult.
  • You constantly plan, check or prepare so you can feel in control.
  • You put a lot of pressure on yourself to get things right.
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And These…

  • You put a lot of pressure on yourself to get things right.
  • You worry about other people’s opinions or letting people down.
  • You experience panic attacks or intense physical symptoms of anxiety.
  • Your heart races, your chest feels tight, your stomach turns or you feel unable to catch your breath.
  • You feel restless, irritable or constantly “on”.
  • You struggle to sleep because your brain uses bedtime as the perfect opportunity to pick apart your entire existence.
  • You find yourself catastrophising, jumping from “what if?” to the worst possible outcome.
  • You sometimes feel frustrated with yourself because you know your fears are not always logical.

Understanding your anxiety

Anxiety often develops for a reason, it’s your brain and body’s way of trying to protect you. The problem is that sometimes the alarm system becomes overly sensitive, so it starts responding to possibilities, uncertainty or perceived threats as though they’re immediate dangers.

Therapy isn’t about telling you to “just stop worrying”. It’s about understanding what your anxiety is trying to do, recognising the patterns that keep it going and gradually building your confidence in handling the things you can’t control.

How therapy can help

In therapy, we can explore what’s underneath your anxiety and how it affects your thoughts, feelings, behaviours and relationships. Together, we might look at patterns such as avoidance, reassurance seeking, people-pleasing, perfectionism, overthinking or catastrophising.

We’ll work towards helping you feel more able to sit with uncertainty rather than needing to eliminate it and become more confident in responding to anxious thoughts without automatically believing or acting on them. We’ll also explore the physical side of anxiety and develop strategies that can help you feel more grounded when your body goes into overdrive.

Therapy isn’t about becoming someone who never feels anxious, it’s about anxiety no longer making your decisions for you.

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What could change?

With time and the right support, you may begin to:

  • Understand your anxiety rather than feeling controlled by it.
  • Recognise unhelpful thought patterns.
  • Feel more able to tolerate uncertainty.
  • Reduce avoidance and reassurance seeking.
  • Manage physical symptoms of anxiety more effectively.
  • Feel more confident in situations that previously felt overwhelming.
  • Set boundaries without feeling consumed by guilt.
  • Be less driven by the need to get everything “right”.
  • Switch off more easily.
  • Feel calmer and more present.
  • Trust yourself more.
  • Make choices based on what you actually want, rather than what anxiety tells you is safest.

Don’t wait until anxiety becomes unbearable

You don’t have to be in crisis to deserve support. If anxiety is taking up more space in your life than you’d like it to, therapy can give you somewhere to slow down, understand what’s happening and begin to feel less controlled by it.